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Group: Spouses of Sexual Addiction

We are offering a group for women whose spouses are dealing with a sexual addiction. Meet other women, gain support and increase coping. Contact Kristin at kristin@thehealinggroup.com or 801-461-9060.

The 'What-If's" of Infertility

There are so many what-if's when it comes to infertility and not always the immediate answer to give you comfort. But What if through it all we didn't lose hope? What if we kept searching for the answers? RESOLVE, The national organization for infertility, has started a new project, Project IF. This video gives a powerful portrait of Infertility and a reminder this disease is impacting 1 out of 8 couples across the country.

What IF? A Portrait of Infertility from Keiko Zoll on Vimeo.

From the Mouths of Babies--Attachment

Ever wondered about just how much you "should" hold your baby? What their found sense of independence means? Here's a nice little breakdown for you regarding infant attachment from the babies perspective.

Birth to 2 Months:

• You can hold me as much as you want.
• You can’t spoil me.
• Crying is how I tell you that I need something. I don’t cry to make you angry.
• If you think you have taken care of all of my needs and I am still crying, hold me and
comfort me.
• Smile at me, laugh, sing to me, rock me, dance with me gently, talk to me softly. This is
how our relationship grows.


2 to 7 Months:
• When I look at you, smile, coo, and reach up to you, I want you to respond to me.
• Crying is how I tell you that I need something. I don’t cry to make you angry.
• If I turn away, I have had enough.
• When I am hurt, sick or afraid, I need you to hold me right away.

7 to 12 Months:
• I prefer to be with the few people who look after me the most. I am upset by people I
don’t know.
• I get upset when you leave me. Hug and cuddle me when you leave, and again when you
come back; then I will learn that I am safe and secure.
• Play and talk with me face to face.
• Watch me play and follow my lead. If you always direct my play I will stop trying.
• Try to understand what I am telling you when I cry, smile, babble, or turn away.

12 to 24 Months:
• I am learning about my world. I like to explore, but when I am frightened, I need to come
back to you for comfort. When I feel safe and comforted, I am ready to explore again.
• Even though I can do more things by myself, I still need love and affection.

24 to 48 Months:
• When I want to do things on my own, let me try, as long as it is not dangerous.
• I still need you to keep me safe and comfort me when I am hurt, upset, frightened, or
sick.

Source: Source: Health Canada Mental Health Promotion Website, “First Connections Make All the
Difference”, http://www.hc-sc.gc.ca/hppb/mentalhealth/mhp/pub/fc/index.html

Take the Birth Survey

Set aside 30 minutes of your time and share your birth story by participating in the Birth Survey Project. By taking the survey, you contribute valuable information about the birthing practices here in our community.

Here's just ONE exerpt from their philosophy:

We believe that women of childbearing age must have access to information that will help them choose maternity care providers and institutions that are most compatible with their own philosophies and needs. We hope that the Transparency in Maternity Care Project will provide information that will help women make fully informed maternity care decisions.

Click this link to go give your imput and contribute to our birthing community!

Postpartum Home Vistis

As I am reading Yalom's book, The Gift of Therapy, he has posed the very question I have contemplated for some time regarding mental health and home visits. Though home visits were once a common occurrence, now they are almost seen as taboo. However, with these mother's and father's out there grappling with the changes a baby brings along with its birth, wouldn't it be nice to literally meet client's where they are at? So often in our profession we spout off the phrase "meet your client's where they are at"...which means, as long as it's in the office. Wouldn't it be nice to see just how "perfectly" or "imperfectly" their homes are arranged (an opportunity to address the need for perfectly good but not perfect), to see where they could use a "you know, you are doing a great job", to sit on the lawn with them and process, nuture and connect,? I'm wondering in the field of postpartum mood disorders, in particular, just how important a home visit* could be? What doors could it open? Doula's enter the home, midwives enter the home, why aren't we joining up with these professionals and adding to the holistic care of these parents? What information could be shared without saying a word? With these ponderings I'd love your perspectives and feedback!

(I also put out there that establishing good professional an therapeutic boundaries prior to a home visit is necessary as well.)

Magazine and Website for Girls 8 and Up

I love finding new media voices targeted at girls that build their self-esteem, help them think about hard questions, foster a strong sense of self and nurture their talents. New Moon Magazine and website (on the scene way before the Twilight series) is a magazine edited and created by girls ages 8+. You'll find art, articles, poetry, body and feelings, sports, games, changing the world and more. Love what I have seen so far. You can check it out here: http://www.newmoon.com/